I almost stopped myself. My ego almost got the best of me.
I had this belief lingering that I can’t do this. I can’t possibly be a BARE coach because I’m not at my natural weight. This thought kept playing over and over in my head, like a broken record. Top tunes included “Who’s going to work with me?”, and “I still have so much weight to lose!”. How can I help people learn to stop dieting, and learn to love the skin they’re in, when I don’t have the results? I was still focused on a number, on a size, on the fact that the extra pounds are still here from my breast cancer diagnosis 3 years ago!! I mean, seriously....what the heck?!?!
And so, I almost gave up. I almost said “forget this", "I can’t do this”.
And then, a moment of clarity hit. I like to call these “light bulb moments”. You know, like a great idea, when the imaginary light bulb goes on over your head. I realized something very important. While I may not be at my natural weight today, I have reached other major milestones along the way.
I have actually been letting a number hold me back. I’ve been so nervous about putting myself out there because I’m not at my natural weight! Truth is, I’ve only lost a few pounds. That’s if we’re using the scale as a form of measurement. BUT, here’s the deal….I notice when I grab food when I’m not hungry. I have reconnected with my body. I feel my emotions, instead of stuffing them down. I am changing negative thought patterns and beliefs. I have learned ways to move my body that feel like love instead of torture. I have identified ways to add pleasure in my life that are not food related. Things like taking a hot bath, reading a good book, going for a long walk, writing, playing games with my kids. I am learning to put myself first. I am learning to love me, without needing any external validation. All of this makes the number on the scale seem really insignificant.
I’m reminded that this is not a race. I’m not in a rush. This is NOT a diet. I am permanently changing the way I feel about my body. I am permanently changing my relationship with food. I am living my life. I am putting myself out there. I am helping a lot of people do the same. I can tell you that it feels amazing on the other side.
I may not be at my natural weight yet. I am not an expert, I'm not someone who has done it. I am someone who is doing it.
I became a BARE coach to help women who feel defeated in the weight loss world, who feel like they can’t lose weight; women who are sick of spending money on diets that don’t work; women who just want to feel beautiful again, stop obsessing over their weight, and take back control of their lives. And, I’m doing this with them.
When I was training to become a life coach, I learned that we are always just a few steps ahead of our clients. This leaves me with a beautiful image....I see me reaching for your hand to lift you up and bring you along on this journey. The journey to stop obsessing over your weight and size; to change your relationship with food, and your body; to end emotional eating, so you can focus on doing what you love in life. Thinking about this gives me goosebumps. I always know I'm on the right track when I get goosebumps.
And to think, I almost gave up. Well, I'm not hiding anymore. I'll continue to step out of my comfort zone. I'm stepping out today by posting this blog.
How are you hiding in your life? What is one thing you can do today to take a step forward? Will you do that one thing? Trust me, you’ll thank yourself.
PS. Would you like to learn more about the BARE program and how you can learn to change your relationship with food and love the skin you're in now? Click here to schedule your FREE discovery call today. You're so worth it.