The Balancing Act


What is work-life balance?

If you were to Google the definition, here's what it would say (from Wikipedia):

"Work–life balance is a concept including proper prioritizing between "work" (career and ambition) and "lifestyle" (health, pleasure, leisure, family and spiritual development/meditation)."

Maybe it’s just me, but that definition seems totally unbalanced.

Work vs. everything else. Who decides what proper prioritization looks like?

Isn't that up to the individual?

I believe the idea of work-life balance is just another way for us to feel really shitty about ourselves, and everything we can't accomplish.

What if I told you there was no such thing? You don't have to create balance.

Hear me out.

The goal of work-life balance is to strike some sort of harmony between work, life, and every other thing we choose to do. It tells us we should be able to handle all the things, and do them correctly. It sounds a lot like perfection, and a one-way ticket to anxiety, guilt, and burnout.

I don’t know many people living in “proper” balance. In fact, most people I talk to are living the exact opposite. They’re desperate to find this mysterious place of balance, but end up disappointed in themselves as they struggle to make it happen. The truth is, it’s never going to happen. We end up chasing our own tails, spinning in circles, trying to land in a place that doesn’t exist. It does the exact opposite of what was intended. It creates more stress.

I tried this for a while. No wonder I was eating emotionally!! Trying to create work-life balance was stressing me out, because I couldn’t create something that doesn't exist!!!!! Gah!!!! It's maddening.