I haven't been celebrating my wins. To be honest, I don’t know that I ever really have.
Instead, I focus on the things I haven’t accomplished – the things I haven’t done yet – the stuff on my to-do list that I didn’t get to. With that comes a whole bunch of guilt, and other crap about not being good enough. It’s not a fun place to be.
I guess I’ve always known this about myself, but it really came to light recently.
If you follow me on Facebook, then you know I'm doing the Bikini Body Mommy Challenge 6.0. It's an awesome 90-day exercise program that's free on YouTube. I love the host. She is so real, and so authentic. And no, you don't have to be a mom to do it.
Every 15 days there’s a fit test, which includes 8 different exercises. The idea is to count your reps for each exercise. The goal is to beat your previous score. Last week was my 30-day fit test. I started out slow, and ended up with less squats than the previous test. My score on the push-ups was the same. I beat my score for the other 6 exercises. I even held plank for the full 45 seconds without dropping to my knees (a big deal for me).
When I finished the test, all I could think about were those squats and push-ups. I didn't beat my last score, so I started to beat myself up. I didn’t stop to consider my accomplishments. It didn’t cross my mind that I just finished day #30 of this challenge. I didn’t pay attention to the fact that I did beat my score on 6 of the 8 exercises (including mountain climbers, high knees, and lunges). I was fixated on the negative – what I didn’t do.
I caught myself in that moment. I noticed what I was doing. It got me thinking.
Where else in my life do I focus on the negative?
How often am I not celebrating my wins?
More often than I care to admit.
I haven’t been celebrating the wins in my business. I haven’t recognized my accomplishments as an entrepreneur. Hell, just the fact that I started my own business is worth celebrating!! All the people I have helped through coaching, a beautiful website I created with my husband, getting certified in the BARE program. The list goes on. I haven’t stopped for even a second to celebrate all the good that happens every single day. Instead, I focus on all the things I haven't done yet.
This has been a theme in my life for a long time. It’s attached to the belief that I'll never be good enough. It has impacted me in my career, my marriage, my role as a mom, and my relationship with myself. I’m so busy criticizing myself for the things I haven’t done, I don’t stop to realize all the things I do on a daily basis! It’s really sad when you think about it.
Do you celebrate your wins? Or, are you more focused on the things you didn’t get done?
I decided to make a big change last week. It’s time to start celebrating my wins. It’s time to appreciate what I have done, and all that I am doing. I started to look at my to-do list with a fresh set of eyes. Instead of cringing at the items I missed, I’m congratulating myself for all the stuff I get done each day. I started a gratitude journal. The conversation with myself is changing, and it feels really good. I’m proud of my fit test! I beat my scores in 6 out of 8 exercises – that’s pretty awesome!!
Here's a fun challenge:
Pick one day this week to acknowledge all the things that you did get done.
Make a list, and write it all down.
These can be little things, or big things. The list can be short, or long. It doesn’t matter.
Just notice what you accomplished.
Can you just give yourself a pat on the back, and take a minute to celebrate your wins?
I hope you will, because it feels great.