Break Overeating Cycles. Build Self-Trust. Be Free in Your Body.

If you’ve ever felt like food is running the show, or like your body is a battleground instead of a home, you’re not alone.

Many of the women I work with (and those I love) are struggling. Not just with food. Not just with body image. But with themselves.

That kind of struggle doesn’t stay in the kitchen. It follows you through your day like a weighted blanket—adding tension to every choice, every mirror glance, every quiet moment. It makes everything feel heavier. Harder. Lonelier.

If you’re stuck in a cycle of overeating, guilt, restriction, and starting over… I want to offer you a new way forward. Not another plan. Not another rule. But a new lens. A different way to see yourself—and your story.

Let’s talk about what it means to break the cycle, rebuild trust, and finally feel free in your body.

What Overeating Cycles Look Like

Overeating isn’t just about eating too much. It’s a cycle—a loop. And once you learn to see that cycle clearly, you can begin to change it.

Here’s how the loop typically goes:

• A trigger (stress, boredom, sadness, anxiety, or even happiness) sets things in motion.

• That trigger leads to a reaction—emotional eating, mindless snacking, bingeing.

• Then comes the guilt.

• And after that? A promise to “do better tomorrow.”

• Which often means… restriction.

• Until the next trigger hits. And the cycle starts all over again.

Sound familiar?

There are different ways overeating shows up, and naming them can help you recognize your own patterns:

• Emotional eating – Using food to soothe or avoid feelings.

• Stress eating – Trying to feel in control when life feels chaotic.

• Habitual eating – Snacking out of routine, not hunger.

• Mindless eating – Zoning out with food, often without even realizing it.

• All-or-nothing eating – “I already messed up, so I might as well keep going.”

What’s important to understand is this: it’s not the trigger itself that causes the cycle. It’s the reaction to the trigger.

The good news? Reactions can change. Which means the cycle can break.

You're Not Broken—You're Responding

This is something I remind my clients all the time:

You are not broken because you overeat. You’re responding to something.

When you start looking at your patterns with curiosity instead of criticism, everything shifts. You move out of shame and into possibility.

So ask yourself:

What situations or feelings make me feel most out of control with food?

What am I needing in those moments?

Is it rest? Connection? Comfort? Space?

Overeating is a response, but you can learn to respond differently.

Rebuilding Self-Trust (Without Rules or Restriction)

Most of us have spent years—if not decades—being told we can’t be trusted around food.

Diet culture trains us to ignore our hunger, track every bite, and follow someone else’s rules. And over time, that erodes self-trust. It teaches us that we’re not safe with our own bodies.

But here's what I’ve learned: Self-trust isn’t about perfection. It’s about knowing you have your own back.

It’s built in tiny moments—small promises kept.

Things like:

• Eating when you're hungry.

• Stopping when you're satisfied.

• Speaking kindly to yourself after a binge.

• Letting one moment be just that—a moment, not a reason to spiral.

And it takes time, especially if you’ve spent most of your life second-guessing yourself, apologizing for your body, or trying to earn your worth.

But it is possible. And it starts small.

A Note on Tracking and Goals

Let me be clear: having health goals isn’t the problem. It’s how we relate to them.

I currently have a fiber goal I try to hit each day. But I don’t force food just to meet a number. If my body is satisfied and I’ve eaten enough? I stop. Because my body gets the final say.

That’s the difference.

You can have structure. You can even track if it works for you. But when your body speaks, it gets to lead. That’s self-trust.

What Does It Mean to Feel Free in Your Body?

Let’s talk about body freedom for a moment, because this part gets so twisted in our culture.

Feeling free in your body doesn’t mean loving how you look 24/7. It means feeling like you belong in your own skin.

It’s:

• Not constantly hiding or body-checking.

• Choosing clothes that fit you now.

• Letting go of the "I'll feel good when I lose weight" trap.

• Moving your body because it feels good, not as punishment.

You can want to lose weight and still respect your body. You can work toward change and still offer yourself kindness. One does not cancel the other.

Freedom starts when you stop punishing your body and start partnering with it.

Practices to Support Self-Trust and Body Freedom

Here are a few small ways to start practicing this new lens:

📝 Daily Self-Evidence: Write down one small way you showed up for yourself today. Doesn’t have to be food-related. Let it be proof that you’re building trust.

🚶 Gentle Movement: Choose movement that feels good, not like punishment. Go for a five-minute walk, stretch, dance in the kitchen. Move because your body was made to move.

👕 Dress for Now: Wear clothes that fit your current body. Not the ones you “used to fit into” or “hope to fit into someday.” You deserve to feel comfortable now.

💬 Talk Kindly to Yourself: After a binge. After a hard day. After anything. Kindness is not letting yourself off the hook—it’s holding yourself with love.

Remember: You Deserve More Than Rules and Restrictions

You deserve peace with food.

You deserve to trust yourself again.

You deserve to feel free in your body, because it’s yours.

This work isn’t about perfection. It’s about permission.

Permission to feel. Permission to choose. Permission to change.

And if you need help on that journey, I’m here. Whether you explore the self-paced Fat2Fierce® program or you’re ready for private coaching, this path is always open to you.

You’re not broken. You’re becoming.

One bite, one breath, one bold choice at a time.

If this resonated, I’d love to hear from you.

Email me at amy@amyenglishcc.com and let me know your biggest takeaway from this post or this podcast episode.

And if you know someone else who’s stuck in the cycle? Send this their way. We don’t heal in isolation. We rise together.

xo,

Amy English

Emotional Eating Coach | Fat2Fierce®

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Empowering women to reclaim their power with food and find peace with their bodies.