What are you saying about your body?
Do you know who’s listening?
I remember the day my daughter asked me if she looked fat.
She was 8 years old, and it broke my heart.
I realized she probably heard me one of the dozen times I was trying to find something to wear.
Did she see me having a meltdown on my closet floor, crying because I looked fat in everything?
Maybe it was the time when I would only allow myself a meal replacement shake for dinner because I needed to lose weight.
Or maybe it was when I refused to take off my cover-up and go swimming at the beach because I hated how I looked in my bathing suit.
Regardless of which time it was, she got the idea from me. I had been passing down negative thoughts about my body to her for years. It hit me like a ton of bricks. That was the day I decided to break the body shaming cycle… for both of us.
All the work I've done since then helped change the tide. I don't criticize my body anymore. It doesn’t matter if my weight stays the same or fluctuates throughout life. Even when I look at pictures of myself when I was at my heaviest weight I have so much love and appreciation for my body.
Body shame is a learned behavior. We learn it from the people around us, the media, and society. But it doesn't have to be that way. We can break the cycle of body shame by leading by example and teaching our kids to love and accept themselves for who they are.
Change starts with you. When you break the cycle of body shame for yourself, you send a powerful message to your kids and the people around you. You're showing them that it's possible to love and accept your body, no matter what.
Ready to break the cycle of self-hatred and body shame for yourself and your kids? Start by loving yourself for who you are. Talk about your body in a positive way. Wear clothes that make you feel confident. Exercise because you enjoy it. And most importantly, show your kids how to treat themselves with respect.
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